I have struggled with writing this post for a week. Bear with me.
My husband was watching television the other night and I came in to join him for a few minutes. The show that was airing was on The History Channel and was about Viking men who were about to sail off. The first scene that I sat through was of the men using a community water bowl to wash their face. Then as they would finish washing their face, they each blew snot into the community bowl. UGGG. I thought about how far we had come as a society and cleanliness and hygiene. There was only one woman, who was a slave, in the scene. The second scene one of the men grab the slave girl and rape her before sailing off. Again, I thought about how far we have come in our society that no one is viewed as property. —- And then, I read about Steubenville gang rape case. And I am appalled. I take back everything I thought about us maturing as a society.
What is even more appalling to me than raping a drunk, unconscious girl, is that the boys who were found guilty were empathized with. What? Excuse me? CNN headlines lamented, ” ‘ Promising Future’ of the Stuebenville rapist, who are ‘Very Good Students.’ ” There is now a petition against CNN who’s coverage focused more on the verdict ruining the lives of the rapist than sympathy for the female victim.
What is wrong with our society that the news laments the fate of the rapist more than the destroyed life of the victim?
We have no value for origin of the soul and the holy container that it resides in. The fact that each life and person is precious because it has been deemed life by the Great Creator has been lost by the majority of society: the value of a person based on the value of their soul.
We value our own agenda, while not taking the time to understand or empathize with someone else’s. We value ourselves. “Love One Another” is the whole summation of what Jesus taught. Show Love. Somehow, it is easier to be oblivious, to be hardened, to turn away. It is easier to justify that someone deserves their station in life than it is to help them out of it. I am guilty of that, especially when I can see the sequence of events that led someone to a despairing place. “It’s their own fault they wound up where they are,” I think to myself.
But that doesn’t mean I turn away when someone needs help. It may mean I have boundaries, but if someone is in serious trouble, I would hope I wouldn’t turn them away. There were tweets being sent out as this poor girl was being raped. Instead of someone standing up and doing the right thing by helping this girl, a blind eye was turned while a chuckle was suppressed.
I have learned through my own struggles that when people don’t know what to do they turn away. They don’t search for the correct resources to help, they simply turn a blind eye hoping someone else will know better and do better. But there are times when rocking the boat is called for. Helping someone when they can not help themselves is one of those times.
We have to value people for who they are. If we can’t value them for the gifts they have, then we have to at least value them as a creation of God who was given the breath of life. Ann Voskamp in a blog on this same subject said, “In the culture of boys will be boys — means girls will be garbage.” But my dear friends and daughters, I want you to know:
You are of value.
God is omni, but we live in a fallen world.
God can redeem you.
He will rejoice over you.
He sings over you.
You are a most precious thing God created and He longs to bring you to Himself.
God Loves you Radically. You are His Beloved.
Intention. It seems to be the catch word in my life these days that I keep hearing repeatedly. The new year often brings new resolutions and commitments. So I think for this year of 2012 I will focus on the word “Intention” and try to live my life in such a way.
I have been thinking about why people seem to be focusing on this word and why it seems to be coming up over and over again in different genres of my life. I think it is because we are living our lives with such busy and hectic schedules, that it seems that life is passing us by without us really living it. It reminds me of the line from Braveheart where Mel Gibson’s character states, “Every man dies, but not every man truly lives.” I want to truly live in my time here on earth, because it can be such a beautiful place.
I follow Michael Hyatt’s blog. He is a speaker who teaches his audience to lead their life with intention and purpose. http://michaelhyatt.com I listen to Dave Ramsey who teaches his audience to be intentional about how they spend their money. http://www.daveramsey.com There are countless others who spend their life teaching others how to live life with intention.
I too, feel as if life is so busy it is just passing me by. Our Saturday’s are wasted if we don’t have a game plan. I get accused on not being spontaneous enough because I always want to have a plan. It is not that I want to have a plan for everything I do, it is just that I feel life life happens to me as opposed to me living it if I don’t. My husband has been wanting me to make a schedule for myself as a stay at home mom. At first I balked at this, but the more I have thought about it as I am trying to live my life with intent, the more it makes sense to schedule to intentional time with my daughters for things like crafts, music and learning. Otherwise, the day just gets away from me, and they have spent the day in my lap and watching t.v. with nothing noteworthy being accomplished by any of us.
So there are areas in my life where I need to be intentional. I need to be intentional in my devotion to God. I need to set aside time every day to just be with Him. I need to love my family with intention, and not just live in the same house as them. I need to pursue my publishing venture and speaking engagements with intent. They are not just going to fall out of the sky. I have to purposefully learn a new craft. I have to set aside time every day to write. The question is where is a busy mom of four to find time to be intentional about all of these things? I don’t really know. I am learning. I know I have to get up earlier than my children if I wish for these things to come to fruition. How about you? How do you live your life with intention and as Braveheart said, how do you “truly live”?